In class one day, my yoga instructor started off by having us complete a simple breathing exercise and read the following quote:
“As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.” – Rumi
A few years back, as I was working as an IT consultant, I enjoyed my life. I was happy, I had a lot of great things, had great friends and relationships, but I knew that my purpose in life had not been revealed to me yet. I knew what I was doing was preparing me for something, but I wasn’t exactly sure what that road would look like.
At the time, I’d laughed and talk about opening a jewelry store, or perhaps doing something with social media, or working on my own. I always had different life plans because I didn’t have a set purpose for my life.
I’ve always been motivated and I’ve always been inspired to live my best possible life, but I knew there was something that I still wasn’t aware of.
In my mid 20s, I thought this thing was a family. I so desperately wanted to get married and have a family. I thought that by obtaining these things, I would be happy and feel like my life was fulfilled.
But, unfortunately (of fortunately) that did not happen. Now, having moved over the hump into my 30’s, I look back at this time and can identify many lessons.
Back then, I was in the mindset that in order to be happy I needed to be doing something differently, or have something different, or be in a different location.
I became very sick and had to leave my job when I was 27. It wasn’t until this forced disability leave that I realized I had to spend time bettering myself, inside and out, to regain my health and happiness. I spent so many nights unhappy. So many nights upset. So many nights in pain. And I didn’t understand why all of this was happening to me.
I was supposed to be living a full vibrant life, working towards my family, working on my career. . . and everything had come to a halt.
What was this life I was living? It was not the life that I wanted or the life that I had envisioned myself leading. But it was the life that I had been given. I had no other choice but to accept it, move forward and try to make the best of it.
Once I accepted my situation, I started on my way. As I began down this “way”, opportunities started to fall into my lap that I don’t believe would have otherwise. I started my blog, speaking engagements came to be, I started lending my voice on panels, taking insight surveys, helping push the patient voice forward, joined different organizations and volunteered so much of my time. All of these wonderful things started helping me find a reason to wake up every day.
I would have never chosen to get sick. If this was a “choose your own adventure” story, I would have bypassed that option and gone straight for the others.
Absolutely, positively, no doubt about that.
But, through my dark hours, through really tough painful moments, through the heartache, the pills and the injections – I found my strength. Drawing on my strength, I then found my purpose and passion in life.
I frequently get asked, “What am I supposed to do? This is not the life I envisioned! I don’t know my purpose." The thing is, we can try to seek out our purpose, but our purpose is only revealed to us in time. In that perfect moment when we are ready. When we truly start on our path, that’s when our purpose will be revealed to us.
By quieting the mind and working on our inner selves.
By drawing on our strengths, intuition and faith.
By believing in ourselves and the fact that everything we’re going through is for a higher purpose...
EVENTUALLY that purpose will be revealed to us.
When you’re dealing with very hard times - the passing of a loved one, chronic illness, things not going your way, the loss of a job - it’s hard to think that there is a purpose for it all. It can be completely unmotivating, extremely frustrating and SO overwhelming. When we’re in the heat of the moment, it can be very hard to see the positives and lessons to be learned in each of these challenges. But, in time, they are revealed to us and over time we begin to understand.
Just like the quote, “As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.”
Once we start treating ourselves inside and out with love, respect and kindness. Once we really start taking a look at things with a positive spin. Once we open our mind and our hearts to the lessons life has to offer. Then, and only then, will things start to fall into place.
When you first start becoming more mindful, it can be a very overwhelming task, but in time, the positives start to shine through the negatives and make it easier to identify. Use these positives to help propel you forward from whatever situation you are in.
So, the next time that you encounter a tough situation, I challenge you to remember this quote. Remember that once we start going down the way, the way is revealed
We may not know where we’re going, or why we’re going through something, but in time all is always revealed.